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Second Chance

Judging fellow human beings is an inherent quality imbibed in everyone of us. We do it every single day. It is this quality that plays quite a significant role in demarcating people into their own secluded groups. Each individual in the group judges outsiders in a way similar to how everyone else in the group does. The judging is always based on the first impression and once judged, it takes ten times more of an effort to force a change in that judgement, and that's where the problem lies. You get those opportunities to bring about that change if you're judged favourably the first time, when the need to force the change only arises when you're judged unfavourably. None of us stay the same all through our lives. We're constantly evolving and learning from our experiences. Each of us have our misgivings and I can confidently say each and everyone of us can think of more than one significant thing that we would have done differently, if presented with the opportunity, while there are a few of us who go chasing those opportunities. An action lasting thirty seconds can bring about a judgement that can scar you for thirty months or in most cases, thirty years! (Well, you catch the drift). It is after an incident like this that we crave for a second chance. Every single time we're judged in a way we don't like to be, every time we're criticised, it leaves us wanting a second chance, a chance to write off our mistakes, a chance to do one better than the last time. Every second chance we get, we evolve into something better. But most of us never get that second chance. We're branded for life on something that we did once. Judging is good and absolutely essential. But, it must not turn into branding. Judging must cease to be a one-time affair and turn into continuous evaluation instead. People evolve, sometimes into something radically different. We must be practical enough to change existing judgments to accommodate the evolution of our subjects. Everyone deserves a chance to make amends, a chance to change first impressions which usually tend to last as long as Neil Armstrong's bootprints on the moon. Everyone deserves a second chance.

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